But alas, they are in your world, fighting kicking and screaming as this is the last place they want to be. So how do you give these people the same joy about exercising that you have? How do you make them FEEL what being strong and fit makes in their life? How do you get past the easy road of wanting to punch these people in the face and really get in their corner to get them some sweet results? Here are some of my suggestions:
1. Find Their Sweet Spots
2. Compliment when needed...not when wanted.
The person that hasn't exercised much in their life and would rather just avoid it altogether, will need constant positive reinforcement during the first phases of your program. Reiterate accomplishments often.
“Hey last week you could only do 8 squats at that weight now you get 15 easily, great work!”...or...
“2 weeks ago you couldn't even do a single leg squat now they look solid, great job!”...or...
“Wow you are making those dumbbell presses look easy!"
You’d be surprised at how far saying the little things takes you. Fact is people seek instant gratification. It is the way our society works now and these tidbits can give this person confidence. Even if they have a very long way to go; highlighting their improvements gives them the mental boost of reaching goals quickly.
3. Set Up Periodic Challenges
This is a great achievement oriented strategy that can build confidence and belief in the system of training. Here is an example:“Hey you are really improving your conditioning and I want to set up a little fitness challenge for you. Let's try 100 Bodyweight Squats, 100 Push Ups, 100 TRX Rows, and I bet you can smash it in under 10 minutes”.
Then when they do it, pump them up. They will get a huge ego boost from conquering a challenge they probably would have been scared to perform before. Once completed they can brag to their spouse, peers, or whoever about how they are killing their fitness program!